IS IT THAT EASY???

 

Is it that easy?

Henry and Liz make it look too easy.

Chris and Hannah are all out on each other’s social media.

Kelvin and Agnes finish each other’s sentences. You’ve heard them do it countless times. They never seem to stop bragging about it.

Michael and Hillary go on dates 366 times in a 365-day year.

Albert and Vanessa wear matching clothes every day of the week, to the point it annoys you. Tsk!

James and Peggy. Those two! They document and celebrate everything together: their first breath together, the four-year anniversary of when they went to the market together, and the fifteenth month anniversary of when they sat in the same car for the first time.

 

And then there’s you and yours.

The last time you went on a date, the dollar was still selling at six cedis.

Two days ago, you got into a huge fight about who should call first.

He forgot your anniversary date this year.

It doesn’t seem easy. But why is it so easy for others?

 

Take a moment. A minute. Think about these: What is love, actually? I mean, what do you get to call love, and what do you not call love?

 

This really isn’t my style, but I’ll tell you a story. A three-worded story. Once upon a time, “Love. Is. Daunting.” End of story.

 

Whether it’s a talking stage, or a ten-month old relationship, or a twenty-year old marriage, it is not without challenges.

 

A lot of us have what I like to call LOVE HYPEROPIA (Big word huh). A hyperopic patient sees nearby objects very blurry but distant objects appear very clear to them.

According to Mz.Sefa’s Enhanced Learners Dictionary (Glam, yes?) Love hyperopia is a condition which leaves patients struggling to see the good happening to, for and with them, but these same patients see, clearly, the good happening in every other person’s love life.

 

Yes, you haven’t gone on a date in a while. But he makes time to talk to you, and hang out with you. He’s in between jobs, you know and still, he never forgets to buy you flowers every Friday.

Yes, you had a big fight about who should call first. You conveniently started the fight but he ended up apologizing. For all you know, Albert never apologizes to Vanessa.

He forgot your anniversary date this year. But last year, you forgot about it. He didn’t make a fuss. He understood that you were preoccupied with that aptitude test you had to take. Do you know how many times Peggy has had to remind James that 7^th July, 2015 is when he first kissed her in his house?

 

Love is scary when it is true.

So anytime you feel things getting too overwhelming, too frustrating, too crowded in your headspace. Remember, that may be the good stuff.

Is it that easy?

No. Non. Nein. Bangõ. Aniyo.

But is it worth it?

Heck, yeah!